If you believe you are a victim of fraud, have concerns that your pen pal is a phony/catfish, feel threatened, or that your safety/security has been compromised, please email firstname.lastname@example.org with all the details. If you feel you are in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency hotline.
We take pen pal safety very seriously. Sure, IGGPPC is a rad, awesome place with an amazing community of people. But it’s also on THE INTERNET. Anyone can get on the Internet and attempt to be a creep… sometimes people are just trollin, and other times they are actually trying to hurt you, by getting personal sensitive information out of you like your address, credit card information, or even explicit photos.
These people are not cool. So it’s up to us to be vigilant like superheroes, and to use common sense when beginning an exchange with someone on this site, or anywhere!
Do not give anyone on this site your home address unless you have been paired with them by us… it’s always best to have someone double check your pal, so let us do it for you. Another good tip when making initial contact with your new pen pal is to ask them to Skype or Google hangout with you. That way you get some face to face, real time contact with your new pal! We are even available to help you vet your new pen pal – just ask!
If the person you’ve been paired with still seems sketchy, do not give them your address! Just let us know you do not feel comfortable with them and we will address the situation.
Also, be aware of what people are posting and talking about here and report any and all suspicious activity to us immediately! All you have to do is email email@example.com and link us to the shadiness and we’ll be on it like a pack of crazed hyenas. That’s how we roll.
So take some basic safety precautions and do not give sensitive information out online, be it explicit photos, home addresses or credit card info.
Yup yup, safety is awesome! Let’s look out for each other girls, and be smart!! There are some dangerous people out there, so let’s keep this community safe and full of love.
Swaps Safety Rules
Ready to venture into the Swaps & Exchanges forums to participate in some fun, snail mail swapping action? Wonderful! We have a few rules that ask all swaps participants to keep in mind.
First, a general principle we abide by:
Swappers host and/or participate in swaps at their own discretion.
In the spirit of IGGPPC’s safety guidelines, we ask that you tread carefully when you’re finding new friends to swap with. If you ever feel sketched out by someone, don’t give them your personal info! Instead, contact your swap host to let them know. If you ever feel personally threatened or unsafe, contact the IGGPPC staff immediately.
Also, please play nice, and don’t bite off more than you can chew. On occasion, people DO flake on their swaps. This is really unfortunate, but you’ll find that our community members on the whole tend to be very active and friendly. If you’re ever concerned about a delayed package, or if you ever find yourself in the position of running behind, please shoot your swap partner a friendly email! A little communication can go a long way to clearing things up.
The rest of our rules are as follows:
- No posting personal information directly to the forums.
- You must be a registered user of geekgirlpenpals.com to participate.
- Swaps must be appropriate for all ages, since forums are open to minors.
- Bullying and harassment will not be tolerated.
- Complaints/concerns must be handled by each swap’s respective organizer. Swap hosts, if you ever feel concerned about handling a difficult situation, contact Swap Iggle Swaps ASAP.
Thanks everyone for working with us to keep Swaps & Exchanges fair and fun for all iggles!
Safety & Fraud FAQs
What sort of screening are you doing to keep out the creepers?
We have no foolproof way to do this, all we have is the trust that our community is full of mostly good, honest people, who want to share and connect with other ladies and guys on a global scale and be nice to one another. Once we have paired you up with your pal, it will be up to you both on how you want to proceed! You may want to chat a little over email first, to do your own sort of screen on the person. Maybe you can exchange Facebook links if you are unsure.
I am wary and not sure I can screen my pen pal properly, can you help?
Yes, you can get us involved. We can help you try to screen someone, so just reply back to us and ask for our help.
Are you responsible or liable for anything that happens between me and my pen pal?
No, we are not. Once we have put you in contact with a new Pen Pal, we cannot be held responsible for the outcome of any contact of any kind made between you. We do hope you use common sense, and if you decide you feel uncomfortable giving your address out, don’t. Just let us know you would like us to either find you a new Pen Pal or you would like to drop out altogether. We wouldn’t want you to do anything you don’t feel 100% about.
Do you have any tips for me as to how I can screen my match?
Ask them for their social media pages (Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram.) Ask them to Skype with you beforehand. Ask them to snap a pic of themselves with your name handwritten on an index card. Ask them for a bit of background on themselves without being too specific (what kind of job they have, what their geek loves are, how they found out about the club, if they go to school, etc.) If they are a true friend, they will understand your safety concerns!
My pen pal has asked for my social security number/credit card number/etc. What do I do?
Never give out any information like this to any pen pal, no matter how much you think you can trust them. A pen pal should not ever ask you for this kind of sensitive information.
I do not feel comfortable giving out my home address to a stranger. Can I still join the club?
Of course, and there are a couple of options for how you can still exchange mail. You can either e-mail your pen pal, or you can go to your local post office and sign up for a PO box. Then you can pick up your pen pals letters from a post office and they will not know where you live!
I have been paired with someone who is making me uncomfortable/a fraud/a liar/acting sketchy/dangerous… what do I do?
Do not respond to them, and do not give them your address. Immediately email firstname.lastname@example.org with a full report of all the details. We cannot help you if you do not report it. If you feel you are in immediate danger, call your local emergency hotline such as 911.
Has there ever been any catfishes on this site?
There have been no confirmed cases of catfishes using our club.
Once we have put you in contact with a new pen pal we cannot be held responsible for the outcome of any contact of any kind made between you. For those of you who have been left in pen pal limbo, you can check out our Pen Pal forums. If you are between 13 and 17 please ask your parents permission before joining. By confirming you have read this disclaimer you are acknowledging that you have permission to join this service.
We do hope you use common sense and if you decide you feel uncomfortable giving your address out, don’t. We wouldn’t want you to do anything you don’t feel 100% about. Your participation is totally voluntary.
If you are sending gifts with your letter remember to check that there are no international restrictions on posting said item.